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How would you describe your first love?

September 21, 2017
  • It was a great relationship, I have mostly fond memories of him/her
  • I have mixed feelings, it was an up and down affair
  • I loved this person deeply, I just wish he/she knew about it!
  • It was largely an unpleasant experience
  • I’ve never been in love

First love. Those fleeting glances, the rapid heartbeats, the mixtape exchanges (or these days, the Spotify playlists). It’s a universally acknowledged fact that your first love is unforgettable. It’s that intoxicating cocktail of passion, awkwardness, excitement, and sometimes, heartbreak. It’s the stuff of legends, bestsellers, and Oscar-winning movies. But how exactly do people recall this sentimental milestone?

Let’s explore the many colors of first loves, and why someone might find themselves nodding along with any of the options from our recent poll.

1. It was a great relationship; I have mostly fond memories of him/her.

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This is for the lucky few who managed to hit the jackpot on their first try. Shakespeare may have said, “The course of true love never did run smooth,” but some folks would beg to differ. They found someone who was more than just a partner; they found a best friend, a confidant, and perhaps, a dance partner for those impromptu kitchen salsa sessions.

A survey showed that about 40% of people still keep in touch with their first love. And no, not in the creepy, stalker-ish way. It’s simply because the memories and the bond were genuinely wholesome.

If you’re thinking about Sandy and Danny from Grease (minus the flying car), you’re on the right track. “Summer lovin’, had me a blast…” – sounds familiar, right?

2. I have mixed feelings; it was an up and down affair.

Enter the roller coaster love. For some, their first love was filled with dizzying highs and crushing lows, much like a Nicholas Sparks novel, minus the torrential rain kisses. This relationship taught them resilience, patience, and the importance of communication.

Mixed feelings don’t necessarily denote negativity. It’s just that the relationship had its seasons. As Taylor Swift aptly croons, “We were both young when I first saw you…” and with youth comes growth, change, and occasionally, growing apart.

3. I loved this person deeply; I just wish he/she knew about it!

Ah, the realm of unrequited love! The poets’ favorite muse and the source of countless pop ballads. Who can forget F. Scott Fitzgerald’s Jay Gatsby, who spent years pining for the luminous Daisy Buchanan? Or Jo March from Little Women reminiscing about her deep, unspoken feelings for Laurie?

A survey revealed that a staggering 65% of people have experienced unrequited love at some point. If this was you, remember you’re in the esteemed company of Romeo, Juliet, and almost every pop singer ever. Wear that badge with honor!

4. It was largely an unpleasant experience.

wilting rose against a stormy backdrop

Love isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, as Maroon 5 tells us. For some, the first venture into the world of romance might have been fraught with misunderstandings, heartbreak, or even toxicity.

These are the tales that serve as cautionary stories, the kind that friends huddle over during late-night chat sessions, uttering the words, “Remember when…”. It might have been tough, but it surely left one wiser, ready to face the world with a better understanding of what they want from love.

5. I’ve never been in love.

And that’s perfectly alright! Love isn’t a race, and there’s no timeline one must adhere to. Whether you’re channeling your inner Elsa, letting it go and focusing on your kingdom, or you just haven’t met the person who makes your heart do the Macarena, it’s okay.

An interesting fact? Studies suggest that those who fall in love later in life often have stronger, more lasting relationships. So, while you might not have a cringe-worthy high school love story, you’re potentially setting the stage for an epic romance. Think Up, but without the heartbreaking opening scene.

In Conclusion

Our first love can be a magical experience, a turbulent storm, a silent whisper, or an awaited adventure. It shapes our narratives, pops up in our stories, and often serves as a benchmark for future relationships. Whether you were serenading outside someone’s window or simply cherishing a secret crush from afar, there’s no denying the impact of that initial brush with love.

So, how would you describe your first love?

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