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How do you feel about marriage contracts?

September 28, 2017
  • I support having a contract in place
  • I don’t agree with contracts, they show a lack of trust in my partner
  • I think it depends on the person and how long I’ve known him/her
  • I’m not sure how I feel about them

When love is in the air, most people aren’t necessarily thinking about paperwork, signatures, and legal jargon. Ah, but then comes the topic of marriage contracts. The sentiment on this is diverse, and we aim to explore it all. So, how do you feel about marriage contracts?

“I support having a contract in place.”

a golden ring on top of the contract

Let’s begin by acknowledging those who see marriage contracts as a protective measure. A survey showed that a significant portion of Americans believe that such contracts provide clarity and security. They argue that, just as a business partnership thrives on clear understandings, a marriage too can benefit from them. Marriage, after all, involves assets, liabilities, and financial intertwining.

It’s been said by many a wise soul, including Benjamin Franklin, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” People in this camp argue that a contract isn’t about anticipating the end but being prepared for any situation.

“I don’t agree with contracts, they show a lack of trust in my partner.”

a couple, deeply in love

Now, there’s a rom-com waiting to be made right here. Imagine someone getting on one knee, opening a ring box, and instead of a diamond, there’s a tiny contract? Comedy aside, many people feel that bringing a legal document into a relationship can dampen its very essence. They associate love with trust, spontaneity, and emotional connection, which, they believe, contracts can undermine.

Oscar Wilde once remarked, “To expect the unexpected shows a thoroughly modern intellect.” People with this viewpoint believe that marriage, in its purest form, should be an unexpected adventure, where contracts may rob the journey of its spontaneity.

“I think it depends on the person and how long I’ve known him/her.”

Ah, the pragmatists! This viewpoint is the epitome of “It’s complicated.” Some folks feel the need for contracts in certain situations. Maybe they’ve known their partner for only a short while, or perhaps they have a starkly different financial background. Trust might be there, but so is caution.

This perspective mirrors the way many approach business. For example, would you go into business with someone you met last week at a coffee shop? Perhaps, but likely with more precautions. Mark Twain’s quip comes to mind, “It’s better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than open it and remove all doubt.” In the world of marriage contracts, knowing when to have one could be about balancing intuition with intellect.

“I’m not sure how I feel about them.”

Ambivalence, the underrated emotion. The USA, home of 50 shades of gray areas (no pun intended), is a place where people are constantly evolving and recalibrating their views. A fun fact: A survey showed that almost half of young Americans revise their stance on major issues at least once in their twenties.

If you’re sitting on the fence about marriage contracts, that’s okay. It could be you see the rationale behind each viewpoint or perhaps you’re awaiting more information. Remember, in the words of Albert Einstein, “The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don’t know.”

Curious Facts and Stats:

  • A survey showed that over 60% of Americans didn’t even know the difference between a marriage contract and prenuptial agreement. So, if you’re feeling a tad confused, you’re in good company.
  • Historical tidbit: Marriage contracts are not a new-age phenomenon. They date back centuries, with some cultures detailing dowries, property rights, and more.
  • Here’s a chuckler: In some instances, couples have included clauses about the number of visits to the in-laws or even the frequency of romantic nights out! Who said contracts couldn’t be spicy?

In Conclusion:

Whether you’re Team Contract, Team Trust, Team It Depends, or Team Ambivalent, your feelings towards marriage contracts are valid. Each perspective has its wisdom, humor, and rationale. While paperwork and love might seem worlds apart, the way we approach them can tell us a lot about ourselves and our cultural moment. So, the next time you find yourself discussing marriage contracts at a dinner party, know that you’re diving into a topic as rich and varied as the American spirit itself.

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