If people are married, then it is entirely logical to assume that their partner is the closest person to them. It would seem that you know this person better than any other. But is it so?

Of course, no one can ever say that they know everything about the loved one. There must be a secret, unspoken. Your mutual understanding, and, therefore, on the strength of your family relationships depend on how much you feel this, how soon you hear and understand the partner. The couples who live together in marriage already for several years are more likely to be convinced that they know their partner very well. To them, it seems that things cannot and should not be otherwise because it is with this person that they divide everything from the bed to the house belongings. 

But do partners share with each other their dreams, personal feelings, and troubles, expectations or sexual fantasies? A large number of people hide these because of distrust, which arises and is fueled by poor knowledge of the chosen one. If the spouses knew each other well, they would have more frankly and confidently overcome all the reefs of family life. Mutual understanding between the spouses is a factor that brings happiness and joy to the family life, also preventing insults and conflicts. 

A good, benevolent relationship is the center of love and sincerity. Ideally, spouses should become close friends with each other and try to understand their partner in any difficult situation. 

So, do you think you completely know your partner?

A large number of people puts a sign of equality between the concepts of love and friendship. In fact, these things are tangible. However, keep in mind that one does not automatically transform into another. 

For example, you can be just friends, or be lovers but not friends. We are used to calling the friend the other person whom we trust and whom we can understand in situations where this person is mistaken. Such moment is often lacking in love relationships. There seems to be love and passion, but there is not enough mutual trust and understanding. And all because people cannot be friends. 

Some are convinced that the best couples are formed from the best friends. After all, it is precisely in front of our friends that we do not try to present ourselves better than we actually are, to hide our shortcomings, etc. It is friends who most often reveal their souls to each other. 

A significant number of both women and men complain that their halves hide something from them and share their secrets and experiences with friends, not with them. Assuming that it is a friend who can calmly listen to you, advise while not offending and not intruding, there is nothing strange about it. It often happens that a beloved person, instead of listening calmly, begins to argue, make scenes, invent something that does not exist. One can always calmly express dissatisfaction with a friend’s behavior, and then discuss everything in detail without being afraid that the friend will go away in tears, saying that you won’t see each other again. But the other half can easily do it. And if you become a good friend for the loved one, it will only benefit your relationship. Your beloved will not have to hide anything from you because they will know that you understand and support it.

 After all, passion cannot live forever. Sooner or later it will be exhausted, and in this case, friendship will come to the rescue. 

So, would you call your other half “a friend”?

• No, I can not

Conflicts and quarrels exist in every relationship regardless of how much people love each other. The quarrels arise because all people are different; they have different temperaments, attitudes, habits, and values.

Usually, the argument flares up – and after a certain time the lovers calm down, but the offensive words spoken during the quarrel remain much longer. With this in mind, some believe that an angry person, having lost control, shows the true nature, saying what they really think. Consecutively, it seems that misunderstandings unleash the hands of a person – and they talk about things that, in normal circumstances, would be afraid or unwilling to voice.

Instead, some are convinced that at the moment of the quarrel emotions capture the mind – and the person ceases to reason. In this case, people are guided by hurt and anger. As a consequence, there are labels that hang on a person during a quarrel. Instead of discussing a situation and finding ways to solve a problem, lovers can offend each other, hurt, but this does not mean that they really think such things. Perhaps the one who says offensive words speaks them only to increase the effect during a quarrel.

So, in your opinion, words during a quarrel – true or emotion?