The overwhelming majority of parents want to have warm and trustful relationships between them and their children. It is not only nice but also serves as a certain guarantee of security: it’s terrible when parents learn about something important in their children’s lives after all the others.
However, in real life, a significant number of parents are faced with the fact that their children are not quite frank with them, they do not want or cannot speak with parents on personal topics and share with them what they are concerned about. Establishing a trust relationship with a child is not easy. It is an entire art, which not everyone can master. The education of trust begins at an early childhood stage. Having barely learned to speak, the child naturally strives to share with parents the things it concerned about. And in this period, it is very important to give the child a sense that her inner world is very important to you.
Subsequently, when the child reaches the age where they can already express their thoughts and even make decisions and bear responsibility for them, it is important that parents listen to what the child speaks and thinks on one or another occasion. The careless attitude to the feelings of children negatively affects the relationship between children and parents.
A somewhat common type of relationship between an adult and a child is also the position of a clear denial of the right of the child to their own ego. In this case, parents are convinced that they can decide on their own, instead of the child, because they bear responsibility for him and want the best possible solution. However, in this case, the real desires and feelings of children are rarely taken into account.
So, what are your relations with your child (children)?
- 1. We have wonderful relations, we understand each other and trust one another
- 2. Our relationship is not without problems, but we are always trying to find a compromise, and we are working to establish trust
- 3. Our relationships are complex; we often don’t understand each other and quarrel on various occasion