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Relations

How would you describe you and your partner’s psychological compatibility?

March 30, 2019

Most people decide to join their lives with another person only when they are sincerely sure that there is love. But, unfortunately, not all marriages made on love are long and stable. Why does it happen that one married couple lives a life of love and harmony but the other gets divorced shortly after the wedding? 

Psychologists give a clear answer to this question: if people are psychologically incompatible, no passion can save their relationship. In general, when it comes to compatibility, you shouldn’t mistake this for similarity or even equivalence. We are talking about such a characteristic as the correlation of some viewpoints, thoughts, ideals. 

Psychological compatibility is mainly the absence of contradictions between beliefs, their complementarity, matching expectations. Spousal compatibility is the most important condition for the stability and prosperity of the couple. 

For example, two sanguine persons are well-compatible since they support activities, the optimism of each other. The situation is similar with two phlegmatic persons because the pace of their activity allows partners to interact with no hurry. Less compatible are two melancholic types due to their vulnerability, while the least compatible are two choleric partners due to their irritability and reactivity. 

Also, most family psychologists unanimously believe that in order for the marriage of two people to be strong, long and happy, husband and wife should be not only lovers but also friends. And for this purpose, they should have common interests, hobbies, topics for conversations, tastes and the level of culture and intelligence. 

Another factor in the spousal compatibility is their idea about the distribution of roles and responsibilities between wife and husband in the family. That is, partners, in any case, should meet the expectations of each other as much as possible. 

So, how do you rate psychological compatibility with your spouse?

 

  • Outstanding. We’re like two peas in a pod
  • It’s good, but could use some improvement
  • We’re incompatible, but appreciate the differences
  • Incompatible and it’s only a matter of time before we separate

What are your relations with your child (children)?

March 30, 2018

The overwhelming majority of parents want to have warm and trustful relationships between them and their children. It is not only nice but also serves as a certain guarantee of security: it’s terrible when parents learn about something important in their children’s lives after all the others. 

However, in real life, a significant number of parents are faced with the fact that their children are not quite frank with them, they do not want or cannot speak with parents on personal topics and share with them what they are concerned about. Establishing a trust relationship with a child is not easy. It is an entire art, which not everyone can master. The education of trust begins at an early childhood stage. Having barely learned to speak, the child naturally strives to share with parents the things it concerned about. And in this period, it is very important to give the child a sense that her inner world is very important to you. 

Subsequently, when the child reaches the age where they can already express their thoughts and even make decisions and bear responsibility for them, it is important that parents listen to what the child speaks and thinks on one or another occasion. The careless attitude to the feelings of children negatively affects the relationship between children and parents. 

A somewhat common type of relationship between an adult and a child is also the position of a clear denial of the right of the child to their own ego. In this case, parents are convinced that they can decide on their own, instead of the child, because they bear responsibility for him and want the best possible solution. However, in this case, the real desires and feelings of children are rarely taken into account. 

So, what are your relations with your child (children)?

 

  • We have wonderful relations, we understand each other and trust one another
  • Our relationship is not without problems, but we are always trying to find a compromise, and we are working to establish trust
  • Our relationships are complex; we often don’t understand each other and quarrel on various occasion
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