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Are you a romantic?

February 17, 2018
  • Yes
  • Sometimes, it depends on my mood
  • No

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

Lao Tzu

Love, romance, and all their nuances are a timeless fascination for humans. With Hallmark dedicating a whole season to love-infused greetings and Hollywood churning out romantic flicks faster than you can say, “I do,” it’s evident that the concept of romance is deeply embedded in American culture. Today, we ask a simple yet intriguing question: “Are you a romantic?” Let’s embark on a heart-filled journey, shall we?

“Yes, I am a romantic!”

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Some people are just wired to wear their heart on their sleeve. When you think of classic romantics, the images of Jane Austen characters or those lovey-dovey couples feeding each other chocolate-covered strawberries might come to mind. But what makes someone confidently click on the ‘Yes’ option?

The Reasoning:

  • Tradition: American culture, from movies to books, often celebrates romantic gestures. Think of the Empire State building scene in “Sleepless in Seattle” or the serenade in “Say Anything.”
  • Oxytocin Surge: That’s the love hormone for you! A study from Claremont University found that oxytocin not only makes us feel good but also promotes social bonding. Some individuals might just be high on this hormone more often, making them more inclined to romantic tendencies.
  • Love Language: Dr. Gary Chapman’s famous “Five Love Languages” book suggests that some people inherently express their love through gestures and acts that are typically seen as romantic, like giving gifts or words of affirmation.

“Sometimes, it depends on my mood.”

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Mood-driven romantics. Ever heard of them? Well, these are the people who can swing from writing poetry under a cherry blossom tree to binge-watching crime documentaries, all within a 24-hour span. The beauty of humanity is in its variety, and so is the case with romance.

The Reasoning:

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  • Environmental Influence: According to a study from the University of California, our environment plays a significant role in our mood. A romantic environment, say a candle-lit dinner or a weekend in Vermont during the fall, might stir up the romance in even the most stoic of individuals.
  • Hormonal Levels: Ever felt more affectionate at certain times of the month? Blame (or thank) your hormones. Fluctuations in hormonal levels can affect mood and, by extension, romantic tendencies.
  • Life Circumstances: Sometimes, external factors like work stress, health, or personal challenges can impact one’s mood and subsequently their romantic inclinations.

“No, I’m not really a romantic.”

professional looking thirty years old lady working with laptop in the office

No roses, no poetic texts, and certainly no candle-lit dinners? Some might wonder, how do these folks even express love? Well, romance isn’t the only way to show love, and for these folks, it’s just not their cup of tea.

The Reasoning:

  • Different Love Expressions: Not being a romantic doesn’t equate to not being loving. Some people might prefer quality time, acts of service, or other more practical expressions of affection over traditionally “romantic” gestures.
  • Cultural or Familial Influences: People’s upbringing and cultural backgrounds can play a significant role in shaping their view of romance. For instance, someone from a family or culture that values stoicism or practicality might not place a high emphasis on romantic expressions.
  • Personal Experience: Past relationships and experiences can shape one’s perspective on romance. Someone who has had negative experiences linked with romantic gestures might shy away from them.

Fun Fact: According to the National Retail Federation, Americans spent an average of $196.31 on Valentine’s Day in 2020, up 21% from the previous year. While this could indicate a rise in romantic tendencies, it could also be seen as an increase in the commercialization of love.

Wrapping Up the Romantic Riddle

In the vast tapestry of human emotion, love and romance have always held a place of prominence. Whether you’re the kind who’d serenade beneath a balcony or someone who expresses affection with a shared Netflix password, each of us navigates the waters of love uniquely. Shakespeare might’ve penned tales of epic romances, but today, even the simplest acts of care often carry a hint of romance.

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The true question is: Where do you find yourself in this diverse spectrum of affection? Is your heart constantly tuned to a romantic frequency, only occasionally, or perhaps you dance to a different beat entirely?

We’re eager to hear from you. Take a moment to vote in the poll and let us know – Are you a romantic? Furthermore, don’t hesitate to share your thoughts, experiences, or even fun anecdotes in the comments below. Each perspective adds a unique hue to our collective understanding of romance. Once you’ve cast your vote, be sure to check out the stats to see where your fellow Americans stand on this endearing subject. After all, in the grand scheme of things, understanding our similarities and differences only brings us closer. So, let’s get talking and sharing, America!

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