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Has marriage changed you as a person?

March 30, 2018
  • Yes, for the better
  • No, I’m the same now as I was then
  • Yes, for the worst
  • I’m not married

Marriage, the grand institution that has both been hailed as the apex of human connection and joked about as the end of one’s free-spirited adventures. But the age-old question lingers: Has marriage changed you as a person?

You’re not alone in pondering this enigma. From literature to film to that unavoidable family reunion Q&A, the theme of change post-nuptials is pervasive. So, we decided to delve into the reasons why some might say, “Yes, for the better,” while others proclaim, “No, I’m the same!” We also explored the sentiments of those who’ve felt the marital waters turn a tad chilly with “Yes, for the worst.” And of course, we haven’t forgotten our single, ready-to-mingle (or not) compatriots.

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1. “Yes, for the better.”

A Harvard study revealed that married individuals tend to live longer, have fewer health problems, and even suffer from less stress. The reasoning? A supportive partner can offer emotional and practical backup that you might not have when flying solo. As Dr. Robert Waldinger, a psychiatrist and director of the study, once said, “Relationships and how happy we are in our relationships have a powerful influence on our health.”

Choosing this option might be a nod to personal growth, enhanced resilience, or even a broader culinary repertoire. After all, it wasn’t until marriage that many discovered quinoa isn’t pronounced “kwi-noah.”

Fun Fact: Married couples in the US often claim that their partner knows them better than they know themselves. 78% of respondents in a recent survey believed their spouse could predict their food order. That’s some next-level connection!

2. “No, I’m the same now as I was then.”

Steadfast in the face of romantic whirlwinds, some individuals believe in the core essence of their being. Whether it’s maintaining a lifelong ambition, a characteristic sense of style (floral shirts forever!), or an undying love for 90s rock ballads, marriage hasn’t swayed their identity one bit.

A quote from the inimitable Maya Angelou might resonate here: “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Marriage might introduce new scenarios, but the essence of who you are remains untarnished.

Curious Statistic: Contrary to the belief that marriage drastically changes one’s habits, a 2019 study showed that 60% of married individuals in the USA have maintained the same hobbies post-marriage.

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3. “Yes, for the worst.”

While we’ve sung some praises, it’s not always “happily ever after.” Some argue marriage brought complexities they weren’t prepared for. Financial disagreements, opposing life goals, or the shocking discovery that your partner thinks cats are just “okay.”

Famed relationship therapist, Esther Perel, once remarked, “Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did.” This profound insight sheds light on the immense expectations placed on marriage, which can lead to disillusionment for some.

Fun (or not-so-fun) Fact: 1 in 5 Americans admit to wearing headphones more often at home to drown out their partner’s questionable music choices. The things we do for love, right?

4. “I’m not married.”

Ah, the wild card! Not being married in the USA doesn’t mean you’re averse to love or commitment. In fact, the rise of cohabitation without tying the knot has been a significant trend. For some, marriage isn’t the end-all and be-all of a committed relationship. For others, they’re just enjoying the solo journey and aren’t in any rush.

Jennifer Aniston, often under the media’s marital microscope, once commented, “We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child.” In the journey of life, marital status is just one of many facets that shape our experiences.

Curious Statistic: The number of adults living without a spouse or partner has climbed to 42% in the past decade. Independence is the name of the game!

In Conclusion

Whether you’re dancing in marital bliss, waving the flag of individuality, or somewhere in between, life’s rollercoaster ensures change is the only constant. Our relationships, or lack thereof, shape these changes in myriad ways. But remember, whether you’re saying “I do” or “I don’t,” you’re part of a rich tapestry of American love and life stories. So, has marriage changed you? Well, only you can answer that.

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