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Do you think you completely know your partner?

March 28, 2018
  • Absolutely, I feel I understand every aspect of them.
  • Mostly, although they occasionally surprise me in new ways.
  • Not really, it feels like they've changed since we first met.
  • We're still in the early stages, so there's a lot to learn.

“To know someone deeply is to know a universe.”

– Iain Thomas

Ah, the age-old question. How well do we truly know our significant others? Relationships in the vast country of the USA, with its myriad of cultures, backgrounds, and individual idiosyncrasies, are as unique as fingerprints. From the bustling streets of New York to the tranquil bayous of Louisiana, couples are often left wondering: “Do I really understand my partner?”

Let’s break down the results of a recent poll where participants were asked the burning question: Do you think you completely know your partner? Oh, and stick around for some jaw-dropping and (occasionally) laugh-out-loud facts sprinkled throughout.

1. Absolutely, I feel I understand every aspect of them.

Choosing this answer suggests a deep bond of understanding between partners. One could argue it’s the type of bond formed by partners who have spent decades together.

“In the end, you don’t so much find yourself as you find someone who knows who you are.” – Robert Brault.

For the trivia lovers: Did you know that in a study from the University of California, couples who have been together for over two decades have synchronized brain patterns when working together? Talk about two minds thinking alike!

Why might someone choose this?

They’ve spent a considerable amount of time with their partner and have experienced many of life’s ups and downs together. They’ve seen their partner in numerous situations, and feel they can predict their reactions with ease. And hey, let’s not forget about the little things. Like knowing your partner will always sneak that last slice of pizza when you’re not looking.

2. Mostly, although they occasionally surprise me in new ways.

Isn’t it wonderful to still have a sprinkle of surprise in your relationship? Like when your usually sports-obsessed partner suddenly develops an interest in amateur astronomy or gardening.

“We are all a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

– Ann Landers

Curiosity tickler

According to The Statistic Brain Research Institute, 89% of couples believe that they share core values. Yet, only 75% believe they share common interests. So, while you both may value family, maybe only one of you gets ecstatic about stamp collecting.

Why might someone choose this?

They feel they know their partner well, but acknowledge that people evolve and change. They appreciate the little unpredictabilities that keep the relationship refreshing.

3. Not really, it feels like they’ve changed since we first met.

Ah, the winds of change. It’s no secret that people evolve over time. Interests shift, priorities change, and sometimes, morning persons miraculously become night owls (or vice versa).

“People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Did you know?

A Harvard study showed that major life events, like getting a new job or losing a loved one, can change personality traits even in adulthood. So, it’s not just the hair color that changes!

Why might someone choose this?

Their partner may have gone through significant life changes that have shifted their perspective or behavior. This doesn’t necessarily mean a negative change, but it might be a different version than the one initially met.

4. We’re still in the early stages, so there’s a lot to learn.

The exhilarating initial phases! Everything is new, and every revelation is like turning a page in a gripping novel.

“Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.”

– Maya Angelou.

Food for thought

A study from Rutgers University found that the “honeymoon phase” typically lasts for about 30 months. That’s almost two and a half years of giggling at each other’s jokes, even if you’ve heard them before.

Why might someone choose this?

They’re still in the beginning phases of their relationship. Every day offers new insights, and they’re learning about each other’s habits, dreams, fears, and which side of the bed they prefer.

In Conclusion:

Understanding your partner is a journey, not a destination. Every relationship is a unique blend of understanding, discovery, challenges, and joys. Whether you feel you know your partner inside-out or are just starting on this adventurous journey of discovery, embrace every moment.

Because in the end, it’s not just about knowing them, but understanding yourself better in the process. And while we’re on this thrilling voyage of companionship, here’s a fun fact to part with: did you know that according to The New York Times, in 2019, the average American will fall in love four times before finding “the one”?

Ah, the intriguing dance of relationships! Keep twirling, America.

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