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Do you always plan for the future in your relationships, or do you live for the here and now?

February 16, 2018
  • I constantly make plans for the future
  • I don’t plan ahead, my relationship is a day to day process
  • Somewhere in between

When it comes to romantic relationships, time is one quirky companion. Some couples seem to have already penned down their 50-year anniversary speech within their first month of dating. Others? They’re still deciding what to eat for dinner tonight, let alone what life will look like years from now. And then, there are those who comfortably sit in the middle of the spectrum. The real question is, “Do you always plan for the future in your relationships, or do you live for the here and now?”

Constantly Making Plans for the Future

If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!Benjamin Franklin once exclaimed. Whether he was talking about kite flying, governance, or relationships remains a mystery, but his words resonate with many in the realm of love. For those who are constantly making plans for the future in their relationships, the long-term vision provides a sense of direction and security.

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One could argue that having shared goals and dreams fosters deeper connection. Imagine two hearts, beating in unison, moving towards a mutual vision, like buying a house, starting a family, or traveling the world together.

Moreover, a survey showed that about 63% of couples who actively set relationship goals felt more satisfied in their partnerships. Knowing that your partner envisions the same kind of future as you can create a strong bond and eliminate uncertainty.

However, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. There’s always the risk of becoming so future-focused that you miss out on the joy of the present moment. Or worse, what if your 10-year plan looks more like a looming deadline than a shared dream? The pressure! But no worries, planning aficionados, we see your well-organized love playbook and we’re impressed.

Living for the Here and Now

On the flip side, we have our spontaneous lovebirds. These are the ones who don’t plan ahead, opting for a day-to-day approach in their relationships. “Forever is composed of nows,” said Emily Dickinson, possibly while penning a love letter without a hint of where the relationship was headed.

couple riding a bicycle

For these folks, every moment is an adventure. There’s excitement in not knowing what tomorrow might bring. Will it be a last-minute road trip or a cozy Netflix night? Only time will tell. Embracing unpredictability, they believe that the beauty of life and love lies in the unexpected twists and turns.

Interestingly, a study found that couples who regularly engage in spontaneous activities report higher levels of happiness. So, for all you “live in the moment” champions, remember: while you might not have a five-year plan, you’re surely racking up some incredible memories.

But, a word to the wise: while spontaneity can be exhilarating, there may come a time when your partner might just want to know if you see a dog or a cat in your shared future. A little heads up never hurt!

Somewhere in Between

Ah, the balanced approach. These are the individuals who’ve mastered the art of juggling both present enjoyment and future aspirations. As Oscar Wilde wisely observed, “Everything in moderation, including moderation.

Couples who find themselves somewhere in between understand the importance of setting mutual goals while also savoring the beauty of the present. They might discuss buying a house in a few years but won’t stress if they spontaneously decide to splurge on a weekend getaway.

In fact, a survey indicated that around 55% of couples prefer this middle-ground approach, believing it strikes the right balance between stability and spontaneity.

Finding this balance ensures they’re not blindsided by unforeseen challenges, but they also leave enough room for those delightful, unexpected moments that make relationships truly special.

In Conclusion

Relationships, much like a good salsa, require the perfect blend of ingredients. Whether you’re the type to meticulously plan your future, live entirely in the moment, or find yourself swaying somewhere in between, remember that every choice has its own flavor.

The key is to pick the approach that feels right for you and your partner, ensuring you dance through life with the perfect rhythm. And while time might be a fickle friend, love, in all its unpredictable glory, is always worth the ride.

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